It has been two weeks with Baby Sevi at home and we are often asked how is Soren adjusting. Here are a few scenarios to clue you in to how Soren is handling the role of Big Brother. The morning after our first night at home Soren announced that he wanted to throw mama out in the garbage. Then, while at the Dr for Sevi's check-in, she asked how Soren liked having a little brother. He responded loud and clear "icky". Add to this sudden outbursts of screaming, hitting and biting, luckily only towards Randy and I. With Sevi eating, sleeping, & pooping like a dream baby - we hardly notice he is here. The terror of Soren is what we didn't expect and where we find all our energy is going. The thing that makes us the most sad is that comparison of the two boys already. It was once Soren that was the true angel, so cuddly and innocent. There are times that we want to tune out the tantrums and drink in the quiet sweetness of a baby. But this is the time when one has to dig deep into parental patience and unconditional love and know that this phase of jealousy and anger will pass. That when Soren smiles and wraps his arms around our head whispering "I love you" that his sweetness is still there, just tucked under some layers of need and confusion. So if you drive by and happen to notice Randy and/or I lurking out by the garbage can, throw us the peace sign along with an encouraging smile and we will be reminded that this is a temporary phase, right?!?!?!?!?!
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Yes--it's temporary. Sadie freaked out about Georgia for a while, but now, 80% of the time, they're best friends. Honest. Now, that doesn't mean that they don't both join forces to promise to throw Tim or me out in the garbage . . . .
Thanks Deb - I appreciate knowing that at least this is common in some other households. Here's to the Garbage!
And so it begins! I swear, while we were busy continuing our routine with Nora - doing everything for her - Klara learned to do it all by herself. She got sick of waiting for her turn. Typical oldest vs. second, I think. Maybe its because we overstimulated that first little darling? Anyway Sevi will find his voice eventually! Watch out, Soren!
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